There are some things in life that simply cannot be explained. This does not mean they should not be believed.
I cannot prove that if you start following your heart, the Universe will reward you in kind. I cannot prove that if you start to think about your dreams all the time, they will materialize around you. I cannot prove these things, but I believe them to be true.
I can proffer to you to the words of Oprah, the opinions of masters, the testimonials of wildly successful people – but I cannot tender concrete evidence. What I ask for instead, is a leap of faith.
So maybe the question becomes: why should you believe me? Well, I am sort of dating a genius, so I must be pretty smart, or at least, suitable for a genius. This genius could be in it for the money, I suppose, but that would be a huge misstep on his end because I am currently unemployed. But in all seriousness, you have no good reason to believe me. Except that maybe these ideas might change your life for the better.
If you begin to listen to your instincts – if you pay mind to that small voice which directs you in the space between your thoughts – God or whatever, will begin to guide you. The right people, the right situations, the right circumstances will enter into your life seemingly by coincidence. Swiss psychotherapist and psychiatrist Carl Jung named this phenomenon “synchronicity,” and in my heart, I know it exists.
Merriam-Webster defines synchronicity as “the coincidental occurrence of events that seem related but are not explained by conventional mechanisms of causality.”
Synchronous events are those “too weird” moments. Uncanny coincidences. Fortuitous turns of events. Examples given:
The day after my job ended, I met someone whom (whether or not it works out) comprises the unlikely amalgamation of qualities I tend to look for in a romantic relationship. Mind you, I haven’t found anything even close to that in three or four years. Depressing? Absolutely. Synchronous? Absolutely.
In the same week, my perfect roommate moved in. It’s the best living situation I’ve ever had.
On Tuesday, I received an email from a well-known San Diegan in appreciation of my writing. Seeing his name, his credentials at the foot of his email, things felt in sync.
So what am I saying? I’m saying that I think because I took a leap of faith – things have started taking a turn for the better for me. And I realize that’s a lot to ask someone to believe. But if you don’t believe me, consider believing Oprah, Brene Brown, Carl Jung, and the thousands of artists and successful people who have argued the same thing.
And hey. You don’t have to believe in a God of any sort to entertain the idea that following your dreams will make you happier.
And here’s a question: what would it be like to look forward to Mondays as much as you do Fridays?
I get scared, I have doubts, but I’m also 1,000 steps closer to my enjoyable Mondays. And when darkness creeps in, I think about my synchronicities, my serendipities. There is no room for any doubt on your leap. The operative phrase here is Peter Pan’s: “Think happy thoughts.”
Figure out what it is you really want, and think of nothing else. Start journaling. Visualize what it is that you want most in life. Write affirmations. This is an affirmation:
“I rise above all limitations. Each experience is a stepping stone in life, including my so-called “mistakes.” Love yourself for all your mistakes. They have been very valuable to you. They have taught you many things. It is the way you learn. Be willing to stop punishing yourself for your mistakes. Love yourself for your willingness to grow.”
This is another one:
I have the perfect partner. He/she is tall/short, funny/smart, whatever. And so it is.
Affirmations can be anything you want them to. A lot of my family members use affirmations – my grandmother swears by them.
While some areas of my life, like finances, could use some serious growth right now, I am happy because I am walking down the right road. I’ve noticed synchronicity in my life, and it’s given me peace. I want you to feel at peace, too.
“Leap Before You Look” by W.H. Auden
The sense of danger must not disappear;
The way is certainly both short and steep,
However gradual it looks from here;
Look if you like, but you will have to leap.
Tough-minded men get mushy in their sleep
And the by-laws any fool can keep;
It is not the convention but the fear
That has a tendency to disappear.
The worried efforts of the busy heap,
The dirt, the imprecision, and the beer
Produce a few smart wisecracks every year;
Laugh if you can, but you will have to leap.
The clothes that are considered right to wear
Will not be either sensible or cheap.
So long as we consent to live like sheep
And never mention those who disappear.
Much can be said for social savoir-fairs,
But to rejoice when no one else is there
Is even harder than it is to weep;
No one is watching, but you have to leap.
A solitude ten thousand fathoms deep
Sustains the bed on which we lie, my dear:
Although I love you, you will have to leap;
Our dream of safety has to disappear.