The End of Judgment

The End of Judgment

For most of my adult life, I’ve felt like a marionette, sort of helpless at the hands of my mind.  It’s not easy to write that.  It’s like handing over a page of my diary. But it’s the truth.  I wake up at 3 a.m. from worry more often than I’d care to admit. I … Continue reading

You Are Capable of Amazing Things

You Are Capable of Amazing Things

I think we all need to find something in ourselves that no one else can lay a hand to.  Jane Eyre called it an “inward treasure.”  To me, it’s like a second heart.  And unlike the hearts that pump blood, these hearts can’t be injured. And while we go looking for these things, these second … Continue reading

Love More, Worry Less

Love More, Worry Less

Love casts a wide net.  We tend to think of love in terms of “I do’s,” freshly cut umbilical cords and golden anniversaries.  But love is so much more alive than that.  Love is like one of those huge boxes of crayons.  Lots of colors. Love can live in places.  Like in a birthday card … Continue reading

(Not) Growing Up

(Not) Growing Up

When I was a little girl, I was afraid of growing up.  I’ve never done well with change, and I thought that – somewhere between coffee and tax returns – my world might lose its magic.  I’m relieved to know now that this isn’t true.  I think most of us never really grow up at … Continue reading

Take It Easy

Take It Easy

When I was at the hospital yesterday, The Jungle Book was playing on TV in the pediatrics’ section.  So as I waited to do the whole co-pay thing, I watched.  There were no kids, no moms, no noise – which is not how I remember my childhood doctor’s appointments. I remember being 86 pounds, covered … Continue reading

Have Courage

Have Courage

Before you could drive a car or kiss properly, you wanted to be a certain person.  From ABC’s to times tables, you’ve wanted to build a castle the sea wouldn’t wash away. Dreams are how we grow and what we live for.  And in my heart of hearts, I believe that anything you can dream … Continue reading

Finding the Extraordinary

Finding the Extraordinary

There are certain essences of human life that we all understand.  Life cut down to the pit. Fearing the kind of internet presence I will have FOREVER, there are certain words I keep under my breast bone.  I can’t tell you the X-Rated things my roommate and I discussed giving up for Lent or all … Continue reading

What Do You Wish For?

What Do You Wish For?

What do you wish for when you blow out birthday candles?  What do you pray about when you get in bed at night? Me, I don’t make heavy wishes about love.  I don’t envision the white gown or my Dad giving me away.  I sense I might never do that whole thing so I don’t … Continue reading